1. What is ironic about the way the author and the father become close? What has to happen to the father?
- The irony about the father and daughters relationship is that they only became close when her father became ill.
2. How would you characterise the conversation that the author has with her parents?
- The phone calls the daughter has with her parents are very brief and pointless. There conversation was as if they had just met for the first time. Her parents end the call before she even gets a chance to say goodbye.
3. What is it that worries the author most about these conversations?
- She is most concerned because she has never been able to tell her parents how she feels about them and that she loves them because she is so far away. She also does not know how to tell them how she feels because their conversations are so bleak.
4. There is a gap between the author’s need to express feelings common in western countries and her family’s lack of desire to express their feelings verbally. How does the family still express their feelings for their child, just not verbally?
- They express their feelings for their child by calling her and telling her to keep calling. This lets us know that they want to keep in contact and that they want to keep checking if she is okay. They also show there feelings for there daughter by letting her know that they will be eating the meal that is her favourite: " this weekend I am cooking banh xeo. You like to eat banh xeo so much. We will remember you."